Tuesday, July 31, 2012

The Tyranny of the Sexy Mom--submitted by Rebecca

So.  All you moms out there.  You were bikini-ready about six weeks after giving birth, right?  I mean, I've never given birth before, but I'd imagine after such a profound experience, your first priority would be lookin' smokin' hot.  But what do I know?  Tell me what you know.

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The Tyranny of the Sexy Mom

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  1. I feel the pressure from the media, and I'm not even a mom. Articles about hot moms tend to make me feel less than worthwhile - "Oh, look, she's thinner & and in better shape than I am AND she just had a baby." There are times when being a single, childless gal has its own stigma without compounding it with the idea that not only are u not a mom, but you're not a HOT mom. Just another way the world sneakily tells us we're not enough....

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  2. Thanks for posting on this topic and for sharing a great article! Getting my pre-pregnancy body back certainly wasn't top priority in the weeks following the birth of my sweet son but I was quite surprised at how many other people around me thought it should be! In the year+ since then the constant battle I had (have) between being healthy and being thin has gotten easier. Nothing has motivated me to have a positive self image and be my healthiest like being a mom.

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  3. Let me tell you, there is a lot of pressure to be a sexy mom. Which, I find incredibly ridiculous. Those of us who are not blessed to be a size 2 before and after birth, do struggle with body image. I have had five beautiful children,and I would sacrifice my perfect stomach again and again to bring them to earth, but it is difficult to feel sexy when everyone else says your not! And I hate it when people say, "Oh you'll get your body back!" Well...what if you don't? Does that make you incredibly unattractive for the rest of your life? I decided I have to be comfortable in my own skin, stretch marks and all, because I will never get my "body back",it's impossible, but I can be healthy and have good self esteem.

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    1. What the hell does that even MEAN? Get your body back? You never lost it! As a matter of fact, from what I understand, in pregnancy, birth, and post-birth, you are very much WITH your body, and your body is very much with you.

      Bodies change. Female bodies change when girls go through puberty. The change again when women have babies. They change again as women age. And various other times in between for various women. Why are we (women) so afraid of change, and progress and age? Why are we so desperate to live in this fictional sexy world where time doesn't pass and we just stay pretty and isn't that nice?

      There's almost an element of out-doing one another. She may have had a baby, but SHE had a baby AND she has a six-pack! (never mind that I have never and will never have a six-pack, along with many a healthy woman on this planet).

      So many ads and picture of "post-baby-hot". Who cares? And why?

      Audra you own your beautiful body. It created, carried, and gave birth to five children and you have the "scars" to prove it. Be proud of them. Be proud of your body. Love/admire you.

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